Another month whizzed past in this year and I feel it was yesterday we were looking forward to 2022 after two gruelling COVID years marred with uncertainty and melancholy.
April is always a special month for us – We got married in April 22 years ago. Every year since then, we have tried to get away from the humdrum of married life and travel somewhere to have some time to ourselves. Since the past 13 years, “ourselves” includes our son too.
After 2 years of spending the same at home, this year we went on a road trip. We live in one of the most beautiful coasts in the world, so decided to do a coastal trip across two states and came back via the inland soaking in some beautiful Victorian architecture. All in all it was a fun trip and after 10 days on the road, sleeping in strange beds, eating out everyday, we were ready to come home.
The long car rides also gave me time to relax and ponder about things that usually my busy mind at home has no power left. I was pondering over relationships and how thay can be a source of joy or tears based on how we look at them.
I learnt some late lessons in life – being a passionate person, I expected everyone to be like me. If I am in a relationship, I am all in – committed, loyal to the core. But over time I have realised, that I can’t expect everyone to be like that.
So I have evolved and my relationships have too. I haven’t changed myself – I am still the crazy, passionate self but now I go in with no expectations. If a relationship gives me joy, it is great. When the energies start colliding and the joy diminishes, you know it has come to its end.
As I am growing older, I have become extremely conscious with my energy and where I spend it. That means I have far and few relationships, but the ones that I have are joyful.
I will not take you through my track record this month coz my travel threw it out of whack but I am back with a vengeance and ensuring that I am managing my goals. Watch this space for next month. Till then go and find some joy!